Podcast Episodes

Codependency is often talked about in conversations about domestic violence—but too often, it sounds like blame. What if people pleasing, approval seeking, and self-abandonment aren't character flaws, but patterns shaped by trauma, instability, and survival? In this episode of Beyond the Statistics, Ingrid is joined by boundaries coach, speaker, and podcaster Barb Nangle to talk about codependency recovery, healthy boundaries, and rebuilding self-trust after relational trauma. Barb shares her ...

Two different marriages. The same man. And a trail of “that’s weird” moments that only made sense once Deana and Lizzie finally compared timelines. In this episode of Beyond the Statistics, Ingrid sits down with Deana and Lizzie, co-hosts of Surviving Toxic Relationships, to share the remarkable story of how they discovered they had each married the same man at different points in their lives—and began recognizing strikingly similar patterns of emotional abuse, manipulation, deception, and cont...

Reporting sexual assault is supposed to be a step toward justice. But what happens when the system itself becomes another barrier? In this episode of Beyond the Statistics, Ingrid is joined by survivor and advocate Danielle Pyle to talk about surviving sexual assault, reporting to law enforcement, navigating a sexual assault forensic exam, and fighting for accountability when the justice system falls short. Danielle shares what she remembers from the night of her assault in April 2021, includi...

Someone can survive domestic violence and still feel unsafe long after the relationship ends. In this episode of Beyond the Statistics, Ray Floyd shares how abuse changed his everyday life—from living without fear to constantly scanning his surroundings for danger. His memoir, No One Is Listening, tells the story of surviving domestic violence, navigating trauma, and rebuilding life after abuse. Ray and host Ingrid Dutton discuss the warning signs he recognizes in hindsight, including escalat...

Domestic abuse isn't defined by a single incident—it's defined by a pattern. At the center of that pattern is coercive control. Coercive control is the ongoing use of fear, intimidation, manipulation, isolation, and domination to strip away another person's freedom and autonomy. It can exist with physical violence, but it doesn't have to. In many abusive relationships, coercive control is the foundation that allows every other form of abuse to take hold. In this episode of Beyond the Statisti...

Strangulation is one of the strongest predictors of future homicide in domestic violence, yet it's often misunderstood, minimized, and overlooked because many survivors have little or no visible injury. In this episode of Beyond the Statistics, Ingrid Dutton is joined by retired South Carolina law enforcement officer and domestic violence expert Brian Bennett, who has trained thousands of officers, investigators, medical professionals, and advocates on identifying and responding to nonfatal s...

When this podcast began, it was built around a powerful statistic. But over time, it became clear that statistics can only tell part of the story. In this special announcement episode, I share why the podcast is evolving and what Beyond the Statistics represents moving forward. We explore: Why domestic violence is more than a number How coercive control, legal abuse, stalking, and psychological abuse fit into the larger picture The overlap between domestic violence, sexual assault, and huma...

When trauma leaves you without words, poetry can become a way back to yourself. This week on 1 in 3, host Ingrid sits down with licensed clinical mental health counselor Margaret Bryden to explore how poetry therapy helps survivors process traumatic experiences, regulate emotions, and reconnect with their own voice. Margaret believes you don't have to be a "good writer" to benefit from poetry. In fact, her philosophy of bad poetry encourages people to silence their inner critic and simply beg...

A man reports sexual assault and is laughed at. Sadly, that experience is far more common than many people realize. This week, Ingrid sits down with Liana Lucine, former Metropolitan Police officer, trainer, and author of Men Ignored, for an important conversation about the realities male survivors face when they experience sexual assault, sexual harassment, domestic violence, and coercive control. Together they explore why so many men never disclose abuse, how harmful stereotypes prevent sur...

Leaving an abusive relationship is rarely the end of the story. In Part 2 of Luna's powerful survivor story, she shares how the abuse escalated from coercive control to strangulation, weapon threats, and constant intimidation. What began as controlling behavior during a teenage relationship became life-threatening violence that affected every aspect of her life. Luna opens up about discovering she was pregnant at just 16 years old and facing accusations instead of support. She describes being...

The most dangerous relationships rarely begin with obvious abuse. This week on 1 in 3, Ingrid is joined by domestic violence survivor Luna, who shares how a relationship that began when she was just 16 slowly transformed from what seemed like a typical teenage romance into coercive control, isolation, and escalating abuse. What started with jealousy over a Facebook post became constant accusations, monitoring, and demands to prove her loyalty. Luna describes how "protection" became control, w...

Strangulation doesn't have to leave visible bruises to cause life-altering injuries—or even death. In Episode 122 of 1 in 3, Ingrid Dutton sits down with April Flores-Brayton, Director of Community-Based Services at WINGS, Illinois' largest domestic violence agency, to discuss the often-overlooked connection between strangulation, traumatic brain injury (TBI), and intimate partner violence. April explains how WINGS' hospital-based advocacy program helps survivors access support during one of ...

Kids don't have to be physically abused to be deeply affected by domestic violence. When children grow up surrounded by fear, conflict, manipulation, or emotional instability, the trauma often follows them long into adulthood. In this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with executive leader, advocate, and author Tricia Gray to explore the lasting impact domestic violence has on children. Drawing from both professional insight and personal experience, Tricia explains how childhood...

Some stories don't just break your heart—they remind you that healing is possible. In this powerful episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with survivor, entrepreneur, author, and advocate Rita Cartwright to discuss how faith helped her navigate domestic abuse, infidelity, profound grief, and unimaginable loss. Rita shares her personal journey of rebuilding her life, the inspiration behind her book How To Heal Your Broken Heart, and why healing isn't a destination—it's a daily practi...

When parents age, society often assumes adult children should automatically step in and provide care. But what happens when the parent needing help is also the person who caused years of emotional harm, manipulation, or trauma? In this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with elder care educator and advocate Amy Friesen to unpack the complicated reality of parental estrangement, caregiving boundaries, and healing from toxic family dynamics. Amy shares both professional insight ...

Trafficking is not always a stranger in a parking lot or a dramatic abduction story. Sometimes it looks like coercive control inside a relationship, grooming by an older partner, or manipulation powered by fear, shame, and trauma bonds. In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with former FBI agent and retired SWAT operator Eric Robinson to unpack what sex trafficking actually looks like under federal law—and why so many victims remain hidden in plain sight. Eric shares insights from years ...

Love shouldn’t feel like a test you keep failing — but coercive control often starts quietly, gradually, and disguised as romance. In this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid is joined by Jas Rawlinson, coercive control educator, domestic violence awareness advocate, and creator of Red Flags 101, for a practical and eye-opening conversation about the relationship warning signs people are taught to ignore. Together, they unpack: • coercive control and emotional abuse • love bombing and gaslig...

A breakup should be an ending—not a new battlefield. In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with Jane, an ER nurse who shares her experience with coercive control, narcissistic abuse, and the devastating reality of legal abuse after separation. What started as charm, fast attachment, and love bombing quickly turned into gaslighting, isolation, and fear. When Jane finally said “no,” her ex escalated—not just emotionally, but legally. Through restraining order manipulation, altered documen...

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some. Support the show If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788. Contact 1 in 3: Send your emails to 1in3podcast@gmail.com Follow on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok @1in3podcast Check out the website https://www.1in3podcast.com/ Thank you for listening! Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke ...

Family court is often where survivors turn for protection—but it can also be where abuse continues in new ways. In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with Attorney Meg Groff to break down what survivors are really up against when navigating the legal system. From filing a protection from abuse order to facing high-stakes custody decisions, Meg shares how the system can both protect—and fail—those most at risk. We cover: What happens when you file a protective order and why temporary ord...

When someone leaves an abusive relationship, many believe the danger is over — but for countless survivors, the fight simply moves into family court. In Episode 114 of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with survivor and health practitioner Dr. Danielle Duperret to explore legal abuse, coercive control, and post-separation abuse inside custody litigation. Together, they unpack how abuse can continue through the legal system, including: Custody battles shaped by false narratives Pr...

Many domestic violence stories end with escape and a clean “happily ever after.” Real survivor experiences are often far more complex. In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid speaks with author Deanna Kay about her debut novel The Measure of Enough and the real-world survivor experiences that shaped its story. The conversation explores why emotional scars can remain long after safety is rebuilt — and why honest representation of abuse in fiction matters for awareness, education, and empathy. Discuss...

Abuse rarely shows up as one clear event. More often, it’s a pattern of power and control that changes shape over time and can hide behind family roles, church culture, or a perfect public image. I’m Ingrid, and in this conversation Tom shares how that pattern followed him from childhood into adulthood, and what it took to finally name it, survive it, and start rebuilding a life that feels safe. Tom takes us back to being a teenager desperate to please a distant father, experimenting with asbes...

Reporting an abuser is already difficult. For many survivors, the next terrifying question is: What happens if the abuser posts bail? In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid speaks with David Stuckman, President of the Professional Bail Agents of the United States, who brings more than 35 years of experience in the bail industry—from bounty hunting to leading a national network of bail professionals. Together we break down how the bail system actually works in domestic violence cases and what protec...