Podcast Episodes

Love shouldn’t feel like a test you keep failing — but coercive control often starts quietly, gradually, and disguised as romance. In this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid is joined by Jas Rawlinson, coercive control educator, domestic violence awareness advocate, and creator of Red Flags 101, for a practical and eye-opening conversation about the relationship warning signs people are taught to ignore. Together, they unpack: • coercive control and emotional abuse • love bombing and gaslig...

A breakup should be an ending—not a new battlefield. In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with Jane, an ER nurse who shares her experience with coercive control, narcissistic abuse, and the devastating reality of legal abuse after separation. What started as charm, fast attachment, and love bombing quickly turned into gaslighting, isolation, and fear. When Jane finally said “no,” her ex escalated—not just emotionally, but legally. Through restraining order manipulation, altered documen...

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some. Support the show If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788. Contact 1 in 3: Send your emails to 1in3podcast@gmail.com Follow on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok @1in3podcast Check out the website https://www.1in3podcast.com/ Thank you for listening! Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke ...

Family court is often where survivors turn for protection—but it can also be where abuse continues in new ways. In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with Attorney Meg Groff to break down what survivors are really up against when navigating the legal system. From filing a protection from abuse order to facing high-stakes custody decisions, Meg shares how the system can both protect—and fail—those most at risk. We cover: What happens when you file a protective order and why temporary ord...

When someone leaves an abusive relationship, many believe the danger is over — but for countless survivors, the fight simply moves into family court. In Episode 114 of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with survivor and health practitioner Dr. Danielle Duperret to explore legal abuse, coercive control, and post-separation abuse inside custody litigation. Together, they unpack how abuse can continue through the legal system, including: Custody battles shaped by false narratives Pr...

Many domestic violence stories end with escape and a clean “happily ever after.” Real survivor experiences are often far more complex. In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid speaks with author Deanna Kay about her debut novel The Measure of Enough and the real-world survivor experiences that shaped its story. The conversation explores why emotional scars can remain long after safety is rebuilt — and why honest representation of abuse in fiction matters for awareness, education, and empathy. Discuss...

Abuse rarely shows up as one clear event. More often, it’s a pattern of power and control that changes shape over time and can hide behind family roles, church culture, or a perfect public image. I’m Ingrid, and in this conversation Tom shares how that pattern followed him from childhood into adulthood, and what it took to finally name it, survive it, and start rebuilding a life that feels safe. Tom takes us back to being a teenager desperate to please a distant father, experimenting with asbes...

Reporting an abuser is already difficult. For many survivors, the next terrifying question is: What happens if the abuser posts bail? In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid speaks with David Stuckman, President of the Professional Bail Agents of the United States, who brings more than 35 years of experience in the bail industry—from bounty hunting to leading a national network of bail professionals. Together we break down how the bail system actually works in domestic violence cases and what protec...

What if your body has been guiding you all along? In this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with Tara, a domestic violence survivor and intuitive healer, to explore how rebuilding self-trust after abuse begins in the body. We talk about nervous system regulation, energetic boundaries, and how to tell the difference between intuition and trauma-driven fear. Tara shares her personal journey of carrying guilt and shame while helping others heal—and how the loss of her sister became...

Power doesn’t always leave a bruise. In Episode 109 of the 1 in 3 Podcast, negotiation professor and relationship scientist Dr. Merideth Thompson breaks down the subtle but devastating patterns of emotional abuse, financial control, and gaslighting — and how they slowly erode self-trust. We explore: • Early signs of emotional control • How gaslighting creates chronic self-doubt • The hidden impact of financial abuse • Why accountability is a clear marker of a safe partner • Trauma-aware docum...

Reproductive coercion isn’t a misunderstanding — it’s abuse. In this episode of 1 in 3, Lynn joins Ingrid to break down how pregnancy pressure, sabotaged birth control, stealthing, and financial control strip away autonomy long before survivors recognize what’s happening. We move beyond headlines to define reproductive coercion in real life: Stealthing and condom removal without consent Birth control sabotage Withholding money for abortion or prenatal care Guilt disguised as romance Pregna...

A life can begin in chaos and still choose compassion. In this powerful episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with Malisa to explore healing complex trauma shaped by childhood neglect, addiction, and domestic violence. Together, they unpack trauma not as a single event, but as years without safety—and why healing often begins with who showed up when it hurt. Malisa shares how perfectionism, achievement, and “being the golden child” became survival strategies for many Gen X and elder millennials,...

What if confronting masculinity required stepping inside it? In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with artist Christopher Quigley, whose immersive traveling installation asks men and boys to physically experience how power, consent, and violence are learned—and how quickly harm can unfold. Across eight sound-sealed bathroom stalls, participants are immersed in scenarios shaped by locker room culture, coercive language, and exhaustion that blurs consent. From a stall where misogyny is p...

What role do men play in ending domestic violence—and why does their silence matter? In this episode of 1 in 3 Podcast, attorney and former prosecutor Anthony Pasquini joins Ingrid for a candid conversation about male accountability, allyship, and the power of everyday intervention. Anthony shares the moment that shifted his work from the courtroom to community advocacy, after noticing how quickly men disengaged from conversations about abuse. Together, the discussion explores how abuse escal...

One in three women will experience domestic violence. But what happens when the survivor wears a badge? In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid speaks with Mia, a law enforcement officer who entered policing at 21 and was groomed, isolated, and assaulted by a senior officer who framed abuse as “consent” and control as “lifestyle.” Her story exposes how coercive control works behind closed doors and inside institutions meant to protect. We break down the dangerous overlap between domestic violence, s...

When headlines fade, survivors are often left with the aftermath. In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid speaks with Norma Peterson, Executive Director of Document the Abuse, about what really happens behind high-profile domestic violence cases—and how abuse often escalates when someone tries to leave. Using lessons learned from the disappearance of Stacy Peterson, Norma explains how control, isolation, and intimidation evolve quietly, long before the public ever notices. We explore the legal concep...

In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with Becca to unpack how reconnecting with someone from her past quickly escalated into coercive control, domestic violence, and physical abuse—and ultimately led to the devastating discovery of grooming and sexual assault against her child. Becca walks us through the timeline in clear, unflinching detail: intense love-bombing and a rushed marriage, early red flags during pregnancy, isolation and alcohol-fueled conflict during COVID, and the shift fro...

What if the most dangerous abuse leaves no bruises? In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid is joined by Dr. Lisa to unpack coercive control—a form of abuse that often hides behind charm, faith language, and “helpful” or respected personas. We explore how relationships that begin with love bombing, future faking, and devotion slowly shift into gaslighting, DARVO, isolation, and financial dependence, causing even the most capable people to doubt their own reality. This conversation breaks down why f...

The most dangerous abusers aren’t always loud. Sometimes they appear kind, generous, and adored—until the door closes. In this episode, Ingrid sits down with Mia Hanks, author and survivor of covert narcissistic abuse, to unpack life with a narcissist: from the dizzying highs of love bombing to the slow drain of gaslighting, blame-shifting, and identity erasure. Mia shares practical tools for recognizing abuse, why couples therapy can backfire, and how to safely plan a low-contact exit. She als...

What if justice isn’t a courtroom verdict, but the peace that comes from telling the truth? On this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with Kath Essing, author of The Courage to Speak Your Truth: Shifting the Narrative on Childhood Sexual Abuse, for a powerful conversation about healing when the legal system cannot deliver a conviction. Kath shares how suppressed memories of childhood sexual abuse resurfaced in adulthood, why survivors often shift their language from “abuse” to “...

What if the person most likely to spot early signs of domestic violence isn’t a police officer, clinician, or counselor—but your hairstylist? In this episode of the 1in3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with salon owner and advocate Susanne Shepherd Post to reveal how Shear Haven is transforming everyday salon appointments into potentially life-saving interactions through a free, 20-minute domestic violence training. Susanne shares how a short news clip about an Illinois law sparked a statewide moveme...

Shame often masquerades as a moral compass—but for many survivors of narcissistic abuse, it becomes the cage that keeps them stuck. In this 1 in 3 episode, Emma breaks down how shame fuels narcissistic abuse, why it fuses with identity, and how it traps survivors in the same relationship patterns even after they leave. She explains the key difference between guilt (which supports repair and growth) and shame (which corrodes empathy, blocks learning, and freezes change). Emma walks us through he...

What if the smartest “person” in the room during your most stressful moments isn’t a person at all—yet it remembers your story, protects your privacy, and helps you plan your next safe move? In this episode of the 1in3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with Anne, creator of Aimee, a survivor-first A.I. tool designed specifically for domestic abuse and coercive control. Together, they explore how focused technology can turn chaos into clarity without compromising confidentiality or safety. This raw, pra...

Your brain can remember the past without reliving it—that’s the power of EMDR therapy. In this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with licensed therapist Laurel to break down what EMDR is, how it works, and why it’s become one of the most effective trauma therapies for survivors of domestic violence, PTSD, and complex trauma. We explore how traumatic memories get “red-flagged” in the brain, why hypervigilance sticks around, and how EMDR helps your nervous system finally believe you...